I Hate My Hair! What Should I Do?

Uh oh! It’s always an awful feeling when you are just not happy with your hair. Depending on why you don’t like it will determine what you can do to make it better.

What should I do if I hate my hair just after I got it done?

Did something go wrong during the consultation and it is not what you asked for? Or is your new style just not as flattering on you as you expected?

Be sure to always have a thorough consultation with your stylist. It’s important to express what you are looking for, how you wear it regularly, the amount of maintenance you’re willing to commit to, as well as what you DON’T want your hair to look like.

For tips on how to have the perfect consultation with your stylist, see my post here.

I don’t like my new haircut

If it’s your cut that you’re unhappy with, let’s figure out why you don’t like it. No two people are the same, and everyone’s hair and face shape are vastly different from one another.

When you’re selecting a haircut, pick out cuts on models that have similar face shapes and hair types as you.

If you’d like to learn more about face shapes and haircuts check out my post here. And if you aren’t quite sure what hair type you have, you can determine that on my post here.

My stylist cut my hair too short

If your cut is too short, unfortunately the best thing to do is to just wait it out. Depending on how short, extensions are always an option. Hair grows 1/4 to 1/2 an inch per month. So as long as it’s healthy it shouldn’t take too long until it catches up to what you were looking for.

Keep in mind that often times when a stylist cuts your hair shorter than you’d like, it may be because it was necessary.

If you have damage or breakage on your ends, those need to be cut off. Leaving damage there isn’t doing you any good and will cause the breakage to travel further up your hair strand.

Make sure you are taking proper care of your hair at home, using good products, and trimming it regularly to keep from having to cut off excess length.

If you’re looking to grow your hair as quickly as possible, see my post here for how to grow your hair long and healthy.

My haircut just doesn’t feel right

If you feel that the cut just isn’t laying right, reach out to your stylist. Often times when we get home and style it ourselves, we’ll find that maybe a few more layers or a little more texture in some spots would be beneficial.

This is totally normal! If this is the first time you’ve seen that stylist, or the first time you’ve gotten that haircut, it can take a few times to get it just right.

For my clients trying a new style, I like to leave the hair a little longer to begin with because we can always go back in and take more off. You can’t put inches back on.

I’d much rather have a client call and come back a week later to go a little shorter than for them to be unhappy with how short it is the first time.

Play with your hair at home and discover what works for you as well as what doesn’t. Sometimes all you need to do is style it differently and live in it for a few days to get used to it!

I don’t like my hair color, what can I do?

There are a number of reasons why you may be unhappy with your color, each and every situation is different.

If you are going lighter, keep in mind that only so much is possible in one session. You need to have patience to get the color you want while maintaining the integrity of your hair at the same time.

My number one recommendation is to reach out to your stylist if you are unhappy and be completely honest with them. A good stylist will not be offended by this.

There may have been a miscommunication during the consultation, you may not be capable of getting to your goals in one session, or maybe she just didn’t hit the nail on the head with it this time around. This is all totally okay, we as hairstylists are all human and make mistakes too!

Reach out to her and give her the opportunity to either explain to you why you aren’t where you’d like to be, or give her the chance to re-do it to make it right for you.

If it was a mistake on her part than the re-do should be free of charge to you. But if it’s because your goals are not possible in one session or you just don’t like the color you picked out against your skin tone, you’ll have to pay for each session.

I didn’t just get my hair done, but I hate my hair

Go see your hairstylist

If you are just feeling blah with your hair, this is typically a sign that you need to make a trip into the salon. Your stylist can give you recommendations for what you can do based on why you are unhappy with your current hair.

If we go too long without a haircut, our hair can become difficult to style or get any body/movement. It may not hold a curl and just feels blah.

The same goes for color. Since hair color is chemically changing the composition of the hair, hair color often gives your hair more body and volume.

I can always tell that I need to color my hair by the fact that I have to wash it days sooner. Virgin hair gets greasy much quicker than chemically treated hair will. This is because once the hair is colored, the cuticle is slightly opened, making it a little easier to get volume.

If you feel stuck in a rut with your hair, check out my post here for recommendations on how to get out of it and feeling better.

Try new hair products

Another option is to switch up the products that you’re using. Our hair can get used to or immune to the same product over and over, and it’s beneficial to switch it up from time to time.

Maybe you need a mousse for volume, a texture spray for that perfect messy look, or a serum to reduce frizz.

For recommendations on my favorite products and brands, check out my post here. I break down all of my favorite products, what they are good for and how to use them.

At the end of the day, if you are unhappy with your hair my number one recommendation is to reach out to your stylist. If you’ve already tried that and it still didn’t work out the way you’d have liked it to, then it may be time to find a new one.

I hope this was helpful for you! If you have any further questions leave them for me in the comments. And as always, have a good hair day!

Last Updated 08/29/2022